Kids who have experienced trauma – adoption, foster care, neglect, abuse, significant loss – often have unique needs. Traditional parenting approaches don’t always work, requiring some creative, out-of-the-box thinking.
Here is one such out-of-the-box idea: let the lives of wild animals help you out.
The lives of wild animals (and plants) are full of fascinating and interesting behaviors and natural history facts. Exploring and discussing these with your child, through the lens of trauma, can allow both of you to discuss a variety of difficult topics, such as attachment, safety, and trauma, from a safer emotional distance than direct conversation.
Children who have experienced trauma often find face-to-face, direct conversations to be too intense, too threatening, and too difficult. Approaching conversations in a side-by-side, casual way can help calm the anxiety and emotional dysregulation your child may feel.
So how does this work?